Responses to A Letter

You may have noticed a comment or two hitting the site in the last week, one of particular interest is a comment on the main letter itself objecting to some of the thoughts presented in said letter. I’ll let you read his comment yourself to decide for yourself how strong his arguments may or may not be.  He also brought his thoughts to his blog and also to, a site where a lot of conversation about pen and paper games go on. A lot of people got involved in the conversation and I was greatly heartened by the shows of support and understanding I saw both at and even at the gentleman’s blog.

As the adminstrator of this site, I won’t comment personally on the feeling. I don’t think I could in any better or sucincnt way then people at I wall say this;

This is a living document, and because a few people mentioned a concern that this project is attempting to preach for all women, let me say here. It is impossible to speak for all women. It is impossible to suggest that any thought or opinion can be shared by all women. The letter on the front of this page is meant to represent only the women who have agreed to put their names on that letter and no one else. The opinions represented by women posting in the comments, in the Celebration pages as well as Cautionary Tales are only the opinions of the women who wrote them. I had no intention of implying otherwise, and will make sure to put in an amendment in the letter to stay as much, in case that wasn’t obvious by the fact that the letter was signed in the first place.

I welcome you commenting here, there, at the gentleman’s blog, on or on your own blog. Just let us know back here what you’re thinking. This is, after all, a conversation.

  1. October 22, 2009 at 9:20 pm

    I am the gentleman in question. I think the thread on was great, and I’d agree that the vast majority of people supported you guys. Very few people agreed with my stance, which is understandable as its easy to consider it to be anti-feminist (though that’s not at all my intent).

    I just wanted to say keep up the good work and keep up your fight. While I may not agree with everything you have to say I do believe that you are raising awareness, and that’s a good thing.

    As I said on my blog I don’t game with men or with women. I game with gamers. Whatever your views here you are still gamers, and that makes you part of a hobby that I love and enjoy.

    Keep writing, keep shouting and keep up your fight. You may not have my agreement but you do have my respect.

    • October 23, 2009 at 3:29 pm

      Well, I’m back to eat my words. I posted on recanting my earlier rant, and have posted a retraction on my blog as well. So why the sudden change of heart? You can read about it here:

      In a nutshell I had a man named David come to my site and relate a harrowing tale. While at comic con his female friend was savagely groped. Worse the bastard’s friend snapped a picture. They did this to win a contest being put on by EA’s advertising department.

      I can’t imagine clearer proof of advertising placing women in danger. That means I was 100% wrong in my earlier post. I apologize. It’s clear this IS an issue that badly needs to be addressed. I just didn’t realize we were still living in the stone age o.o

      Guess I was wrong about that.

  2. Tara
    October 29, 2009 at 4:11 am

    Thanks for changing your opinion on this and for being gamer enough to admit it. The social mechanics of being female are difficult enough as it is (and the negative aspects of that social system often unfortunately furthered by women). Add some men into the situation and sometimes cons/renaissance faires/LARPs feel like high school. And then I ask myself: Did I just pay to go back to a time in my life when I felt insecure, rejected, and unintelligent based on others’ opinions of me?

    Not worth it. I’m all about confronting this garbage head on and changing it. I really appreciate your willingness to admit a change of heart.

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